you have allowed me to open up. i look back at my first posts and i hardly gave any details at all. now you can't get me to shut up.
for the last four months, i haven't had the opportunity to say these things to h.
i haven't been able to tell him the whys from my perspective. i don't think i've tried to model independence but h never picked up on it. instead, he would tell me that i didn't understand the bond he had with his parents. ever since his father had his big heart attack, the family grew closer. does that mean we have to lose our independence in the process?
i don't think i'm good at modeling independence. by showing him that i am good on my own, will likely make him think "she's happier without me. d-filing was the right thing to do. i'm a great person. i am suffering so she can be happy. and yet, she's ungrateful for my sacrifice and not allowing me to 75% of our assets."
that's the mind of a codependent.
what kind of goals do i set? should i be taking baby steps?
