Hey Maria, I have not been on here for a while and just caught up. I don't really think that I am as soft as some others are and perhaps you got tired of my rhetoric. I remember way back when we used to communicate more that I suggested that you seek some help on your own. I had a feeling that regardless of what you ask for (new car, removing stuff from his apt., etc.), that there will be something else. I have no experience with this or at least not the way you do. I remember when I accepted to get back together or piece, I was in it for the future....not the past. It did not work out for me but I was not going to let her transgressions get to me. I was trying to rebuild something. Please do not give me the analogy regarding solid foundations to rebuild. Otherwise, I will have to say that you are part of that foundation and you need some mending. Mending that in my opinion can only be fixed by a professional, never mind him and especially her. Concentrate on you. Take the time that he will be away during the world cup to really work on Kalni. When he comes back make sure he finds a Maria who has put the OW away (not literally of course)... That was my simplistic suggestion then and sadly it is my suggestion today. I apologize if it is not filled with the type of encouragement that others are better at than I am. I may be rough around the edges but there is nothing that I would like more than to see you happy.
