Going dim is a consideration....at least to a degree...maybe not volunteering anything unless asked...have to give that some thought...
The book sounds interesting.... That "caretaker" personality probably fits me better then him. I didn't have any trauma in my childhood but I'm the nurturing type, always trying to please and be of service...that's my way of showing love and caring.
WH on the other hand very likely has issues going back to his childhood. Father left when his mom was pregnant with him and mom was depressed and bitter all her life and never forgave his dad for leaving. I guess that's where my H's need for constant affirmation of love and need for reassurance comes from.
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
