Cause for alarm?

[OfficerInNeed]

It's not what i would have thought of, but IGNORING her when she says that crap may help your case.

Just act like you didn't even hear it... she may just be trying to GET a RISE out of you.. and when you say ANYTHING, she is satisfied and has won the exchange in her mind...

I tried this already, when I first posted on this forum this is what you suggested. To walk out the room and just pretend I she did not say anything.

At times it seemed to work and then others is caused her to be even more distant and nasty toward me.

Let me be honest and a little more open. I use to tell my W the following

- "Your a terrible W"
- "I hate being married to you"

And now here I am enduring everything I said to her. I use to say this stuff, not because I meant it, but because I knew it would get to her. I enticed a response from her, I wanted her to cling. It was like this sick game I played myself. I was F'd up and never wanted this to happen (careful what you ask for) but if this never happened I would not had made the necessary changes I needed, to become a better person and be able to offer more as a husband. SO ignoring her, to me, would be like me being my old self.

Do you own your house OIN? or do you rent?
If you own it you may consider just getting a few brochures from realtors and leave them lying around. Or even pick up a few travel brochures.

Yes, WE own this home. WE purchased the home just this past November. It is a unique situation. We purchased a huge side-by-side duplex. After much discussion and agreement we decided to rent the other half out to my parents (they wanted to downsize and wanted to rent rather than own again). My W knows I wont sell because of this situation.

Going out of town, going on trips seems to be a good idea for scarce. Come home late. I guess we can build a very fun life, and invite them into it. Making them a 1st class "guest" initially.

Just not possible. Financially not possible. We still do things together too. I honestly feel if I did such a thing this would open the door for her and she would walk right out.

I work a demanding shift, I work nights, I don't go out. I have a new home, the weather is getting better and there is a lot to be done. If I have any spare time I put the focus on the home.

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The remainder of the night, we sat watched some TV and some food. We then went up to bed and continued to watch TV there.

W then brought up that we need to spay the dog. We briefly talked about breeding. W spoke future tense or almost in the sense the dog would be there with the both of us. W said something like "We should had got her brother and had 2 days. I don't know if we could handle two dogs though" Then W and I looked at pictures of puppies and breeder websites for a good hour or so.

Wife then transferred the pics we took yesterday while at the water front with the dog to her laptop. She then begin to browse old pictures of our past pets and occasions. I looked on as she did this. She opened some pictures form our honeymoon and a few were of us. She skipped over the wedding photos though.

W then went to bed...