I like what Daddy LS said- make yourself scarce...
Look last week my W canceled MC and we got into it b/c she said she wanted to D...I made a fool out of myself...left my wedding band at her job and pulled away...
W said she wouldn't speak to me b/c she felt she was being manipulated...
Last night I get texts saying "I've been reading 'When Love Dies', I'm confused, so much could be different..."
And way more pursuit from her today- b/c she knows I'm leaving town and having someone else watch my dog...
What I'm saying is the push-pull BS is the way it is...it sucks and thats why detaching is key...
When your W said "then I can move." She already knows you don't want her to go, and that you believe she's running away...
Try saying nothing, almost like she didn't say it at all- going about your business, enjoying life and being happy.
I couldn't understand the concept in my own sitch- but it worked.
Think about it at the very beginning- day after d-day- if you did what i did, I wrote out everything I could- it was all pursuit, pressuring, reasoning, etc...
You're W already knows it all- she's fighting it...just let her fight w/ nothing, no resistance- see what happens.
