The Court of King Caractacus

[JacT]

Lees I dont believe anyone here is giving guarantees that it will end but what we have to remember is we are a population of people with pretty much the same sitch but different degrees, so statically we will see the results skewed on who leaves/comes back/doesnt come back etc.

I have a friend who had an A, married the OW has a child.Are they happy..not totally.She is insecure he will leave her for someone else..he cheated on his wife(she was single).
The reality is in comparison to R as a whole, these A's dont generally last and if they do go on to get married the foundations are weak.
My H R with OW including time he was txt is now going on for 19 months.(10 months living with ow).

In terms of your wife being a vision of perfection:

My wife is a wonderful, intelligent, beautiful, sexy, witty, caring, generous, fantastic person.

I wasnt criticising you..I would say the same about my H but in MLC..they are crazy cats, aliens...she is not the person you know right now and that generally points to something thats not right when you rememer her one way and she behaves in another.
I think the ctc are her slowly strating to test the water, but agree that you should still keep expectations at zero.
You work on yourself and if/when she comes back you are stronger and more importantly you are YOU and the person she married...its crazy how much we change when we are one of a couple..we lose our identity without realising it.
Whatever happens your main goal should be to come out of this a stronger person..you will and you can do this....(((hugs)))