still separated, headed for D?

[newmama]

Ok this is really silly I know but I was kind of meditating today, focusing on what it might look like when WH tells me he wants to reconcile. Well to my surprise, when I pictured myself asking if he had broken up with OW, he said not yet but he was planning on it!

Well believe me, that woke me out of my daze in an instant! I stopped and really had to consider what I would say or do!

Don't you think in that case, it would be appropriate to give him an ultimatum? Like "if you end it NOW, then I will agree to reconcile. If you don't, I will file for divorce." And I am serious! (it is just filing- he could see I was dead serious because my actions would show that and he could find the balls to end it at that point)

And then I would tell him that he could either just leave his stuff at her place and replace it all or that S and I would go with him to get them.

And then I would sit next to him as he wrote his NC letter via email.