Just wanted to say congrats for your honesty regarding your anger issues and your willingness to look within yourself for strength. If I've learned anything in the last few months here it's that all relationship issues are two sided and I am grateful for having found my way off the 'blame train'. It's far too much of a chicken and egg game for me, and I've really bought into the theory behind solution-oriented problem solving.
If I might, I'd recommend you read Divorce Remedy, How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It, This Isn't The Story You Think It Is (Laura Munson) and the 7 Princples by Gottman. Reading has given me insight and perspective that I wouldn't otherwise have found ...
The other thing that has changed my life in the last few months is gratitude. Check out a thread called 'Feeding the White Dog' for examples. Living from a position of gratitude has been transformational for me. Really, there are many who would love to have your sitch ... he's still in the house and able to witness your growth, you have your kids full time, etc ...
And, of course, the tips I give everyone .... eat well, sleep well, exercise and breathe ... meditation, yoga, deep breathing ... all so good for your own PMA!
Hang in there ... focus on you and become the best woman, mother and friend you can ...
(((hugs)))
PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
