I need help in the biggest way. I feel so helpless

[Awoken]

Any insight? I know I'm missing a TON of info.

You are doing a good job analyzing your husbands confused state.

However, this is much better:

I feel like I just need to step back and just worry about me now and my kids.

You can spend a lot of time guessing what is going on with your H, but in the end you need to spend that time on yourself.

I understand. Even now, I wonder what-in-the-world is going on with my wife, and how did she turn into this alien woman. Seven months ago we were the kind of best friends that were meant to be married...I thought. So, I've spent a lot of time trying to understand her, trying to figure out what went wrong, how I can fix it all. And believe me, I wanted to fix it and fix it NOW. However, looking back I wish I had spent more time working on myself. I was GAL'ing, but the drama of my situation would often pull me away from what I needed to be doing.

Like you said, let him figure it out on his own. Hang in there.