I feel like he just isn't being fair. He blames me for all of our failures and disappointments. I think he thinks that by getting rid of me, he'd be getting rid of all of his problems.
That's essentially what it comes to, doesn't it - these incredibly distorted thoughts and perceptions. That's his "biggest problem", not you.
Originally Posted By: timehealsall
I feel like I just need to step back and just worry about me now and my kids. I need to let him figure this out on his own.
That's a pretty powerful statement. Good for you. I couldn't agree more. I wish I did have some great, lightening bolt of insight for you. But all I can do is offer my support, my encouragement that you stay strong in this powerful assertion that you are most definitely not his problem. And frankly, I don't think he'll ever figure that out until he's on his own. The problems that are causing him to think in this incredibly distorted way, will not go away when you do. Because they're inside of him. They will continue to follow him throughout his life unless he confronts them and deals with them. The only way he has the chance to figure it out, to really 'get it' is to be on his own and see those 'problems' are still there.
Hugs to you Time, thinking good thoughts for you.
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
