I look at Flowmom - her thread is called embracing change - and I think, that's it. that's what I have to do. Embrace change, b/c the old life is over. But 1st I have to grieve it before I can embrace it. I think.
I'm going to respectfully disagree with you LFA . Grieving will take me years. And change is happening/has happened whether I'm ready or not. The only choice I have is whether to embrace change or refuse to accept it...as I continue grieving.
((((FM)))), I didn't mean to imply you weren't grieving. I am sure you are and it will take me years to also. I did perceive you were moving through it perhaps more enlightened than I am.
I know these stages are not cut & dried, and you bring up an excellent point. We keep going as we grieve. Change is here whether we like it or not. Mentally I understand that, emotionally I thought I was there, til last weekend.
Maybe just going downhill for a while on the rollercoaster, where it had been kind of even for a while. Thanks for the link, I will look into that book!
I hope you don't mind me referencing your thread! You have a great deal of strength and seem to have a good balance in this from what I've read. I haven't been too good about following other's thread lately but looking forward to doing more of it. Thanks for sharing your strength!
. Grieving will take me years. And change is happening/has happened whether I'm ready or not. The only choice I have is whether to embrace change or refuse to accept it...as I continue grieving. 
