The Court of King Caractacus

[pearlharbr]

Hey lees, just catching up as I've been out of town for a few days.

I don't know how to say this without possibly hurting you, but you need to be prepared for the possibility that W's A with OW might not end. I know everyone else has been telling you to wait it out, but the only other person I know IRL who cheated on his W ended up buying a house with, marrying, and having a baby with OW. And there are lots of people here whose WAS is still with the OP years later, some married. The probability is that it won't last, but there's no guarantee.

I am only saying this because I hate to see people here living in limbo for years because they still are hoping that, one day, their WAS is going to come back. That's a lot of life lost just pining away.

So I recommend hope for the best but prepare for the worst. Move forward with your life. Date other people for real (but don't rush into another serious R!). Work on yourself with IC so you know you are the best person you can be. Know that any woman will be lucky to have you. Heck, lots of women and their mothers dream of them catching a doctor! Be happy in your life. IF W realizes she made a bad decision and comes back around then you can decide if you want to be with her. But don't waste your time on her right now. Cross that bridge if you come to it.

All of those positives you listed are great! Glastonbury sounds like sooo much fun. And of course I'm jealous of the week in Scotland. I saw a pipe band at the airport last night and it made me wish I were going in August to see the highland games!