SR, I can't fathom my wife's reasoning either. I was a good husband, trying to be a better one. I made changes, she wasn't interested. Why, I dunno. This is all pretty fresh to you and you'll have all sorts of feelings which jump all over the map. My advice is to feel them, respect them and let them go. Feelings will always come and go, they don't have to control us. If you are "wallowing" that's no good, if you're processing and it's helping than that's OK. Only you will know which is which. Be good to yourself, you've been through a terrible time.
