He is just dead inside is all he can say and that I can't trust him again I would always have something in the back of my head. He doesn't love anyone he cares for his mom and he cares for me but he doesn't love anyone or anything. I asked if he thought he was depressed and he said "ok, I'm depressed but what am I suppose to do about it" I told him there are options and he didn't respond. He wouldn't talk anymore about how he is feeling because he said he would end up curled up on the couch crying like a baby again andhe didn't want to do that again.
No one has to be an MD to know your H has really bad depression. Why will his mother not open her mouth? Because she is afraid he will move out, isolate, and have no one? Because it's pointless? Seems she could try once at least. Even a general physician could discuss this with him and get him at least a few months of help.
Ask him to come for a few sessions of divorce counseling with you. Not fixing the marriage counseling. Ending the marriage counseling. Maybe have him meet individually with IC about his mood issues during this time. Tell him you will sign the papers after he does this, if he will. Then maybe you won't feel like you didn't try if something bad happens to him.
Yet it's not your responsibility to make him walk into a doctor's office if own his mother can't or won't do it either. Men refuse health care treatment every day and it will probably destroy you to watch him continue to bottom out.
By not signing the papers, you are not helping him. By signing the papers, you are not helping him. Signing the papers is actually irrelevant as to whether or not he will choose to get help and get better. What a mess.
This is a terrible sitch and I'm sorry you are going through it. I'm not sure what you should do. But you need to accept that nothing you do will impact much. Unfortunately.
I can't wait until you are free of this situation for your self and your own life. The aliens could return him in a few years, but they may not. Divorce or not.
