Confused and looking for advice

[gman]

I realize that everyone says not to give up but it seems like most people on here are at least communicating with their spouses, mine will not even entertain the idea, he is done and has shut down. I had hoped that leaving him alone and giving him time would help but it has just proven to him that he is better off without me.

same thing happened with my W - zero communication worked and she was only happy when i left her alone.

I am not an expert on depression or MLC, but it would seem to me that if these were the case, he'd be WAFFLING more. His certainty, combined with his aggressive re-writing of marital history, suggests to me that there is OW.

have to say one of the first things i saw as well in your thread - trust your gut and listen to puppy, sadly the man has seen too many of these situations and been right.