She just said 'oh, I hadn't thought about doing that'. She stayed very calm and said that she didn't think it was necessary.
She also said that she had not taken any legal advice, and was surprised that I had - I did not tell her that I hadn't taken legal advice yet.
Overall it was a calm and cordial conversation.
Keep it calm and civil.
Like I mentioned before, her plan of moving on and away from you and separating and possibly eventually divorcing you has alot of steps and actions involved, she has only thought of the immediate things: moving out and taking whatever things she needed to accomplish that. You separating the finances will bring the reality of the situation to her.
I would ask her for half of the kids clothes and you both can then work on building up the kid's warddrobes at each end, that way you don't have to swap clothes, exchange laundry, etc.
If she says NO and she might, just tell her OK and leave it at that and then proceed to picking up some clothes for your kids, you're going to have to start replacing things eventually. Start keeping track of expenses as well that are associated with this.
Did you document what was taken? Have you spoken to a lawyer yet? I'm sure you could schedule a free consultation to get some advice on what has happened thus far, ie. her taking alot of furniture and items out of your home without asking you first.
