Her crap makes no sense. It's kind of like - Look I know I'm dating this other guy. But I want to repair our marriage. I'm going to keep dating this other guy just in case it doesn't work out between us. WTF??
I say F that. Stand up. Make her choose. How the hell are you going to work on a M while you're going through a D? I mean come on.
Either she's playing you because she thinks she has to somehow soothe you as she goes through this divorce, or she really has something loose inside her head. The first feeling I get is the day my W told me she didn't want to do this anymore.
She said she saw a lawyer and she wants to get legally separated. Then she added - it doesn't mean we're going to get divorced. My L said a lot of people get back together.
Our MC looked at her and said - don't jerk his chain. If you want to leave this marriage be straight up about it. Don't play him as if it's something else. At that point my W said, I don't want to be married to you anymore.
As scary as it is in your position, with what I know now, I would make her choose. Tell her you have enough self respect not to play what you think is a game.
Maybe others will chime in here.
MySitch Me-47 STBXW-41 D-5 S-8 ILYBNILWY-01/08 Want a D- 01/09 Physical Sep-01/10 D filed-06/10 Got 50% custody=09/11 Ride that wave!
