Thanks Abbey. I was afraid I was misreading his actions this weekend and responding the wrong way. I agree with your assessment that he's having trouble letting go this time. I get what you mean about having an EA with my own husband. Essentially I need to be the OW in his relationship with Tramp. I just keep going day by day, thanking God for giving me strength and asking him to guide my words and actions to/with DH so I don't push him away and to help me be patient. So far it does seem to be working.
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