D4's princess and knight birthday party was a success! Creating a wonderful celebration for my beautiful girl feels like a triumph . There were guests ranging from 4-9 years old and a pile of adults, Playdoh, a yummy lunch, capturing the dragon, sword duels, recovering the royal jewels from the sandbox, perfect cupcakes, a simple but nifty craft, and a transformation of the community's "common house". It was a very relaxed vibe and I was surrounded by friends.
H was gracious today as the dragon and managed to hold it together and even chat with BIL. I admit, I'm feeling worried about H.
I have a nasty cold and I am losing my voice at this point. After the party was a huge cleanup then lots of hands-on supervision in the courtyard. The children are staying at H's place tonight. I'm exhausted and plan to relax for the rest of the day.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
Flow sorry you're not feeling well...pamper yourself tonight.
Your D's party must have been great...that's what memories are made of. I remember every single one from when my D was little. I miss that, they grow-up so fast...
Take care of your cold (((hug)))
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
The first six months belongs to the WAS. They've been dreaming of being free for a long time, while we clung onto them for dear life.
At six months you will be getting your feet under you. The pain will be there, but you will have figured out the beginning of a new life. The second six months will belong to you.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
FM, glad to hear everything went well. I knew you'd figure out a way to make the party extra special for D4, you're a great mom!
Sorry to hear you're not feeling well...take care of yourself. Take multi-vitamins daily if you don't already and get plenty of rest.
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
I am struck by how lucky I am sometimes. I know that so many LBS are dealing with much more painful sitches than I am. Although I am hurting for my children, H has behaved as honourably as he could given that he wishes to end our M. Part of me wishes I knew if he was in a R, but part of me is grateful to not have my nose rubbed in it or be tortured with the details.
Sending out hugs to those of you who are dealing with financial crises, parental abandonment, and abusive behaviour. Dealing with a WAS is hard enough .
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
I am struck by how lucky I am sometimes. I know that so many LBS are dealing with much more painful sitches than I am. Although I am hurting for my children, H has behaved as honourably as he could given that he wishes to end our M. Part of me wishes I knew if he was in a R, but part of me is grateful to not have my nose rubbed in it or be tortured with the details.
I guess it's good for all of us to see how "lucky" we are, while still leaving room for ourselves to grieve whatever losses we have. I'm glad you can see his faults and still appreciate - if you think it's true- that he's doing his best. I can't imagine wondering if there were an OW. It would kill me and your strength in the face of this is amazing.
((((FM))))
When the men on the chessboard Get up and tell you where to go; And you've just had some kind of mushroom And your mind is moving slow; Go ask Alice... I think she'll know.
Yes I feel lucky as well- it is sad that my S may not grow up ever seeing his parents love each other so he won't have a memory. But he won't know any different I guess and right now he is too young to talk so I don't have to hear about OW! By the time he talks, OW will be out of the picture! I am also greatful to have a job to return to, my friends, and a house to live in. Boy when tragedy strikes it goes back to appreciating the basics in life!
And that is a very good quote from SRomeo- it is soooo true! It only gets worse for the WAS as the LBS starts to pick him/herself up, enjoy life and live with a clear conscience!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
. There were guests ranging from 4-9 years old and a pile of adults, Playdoh, a yummy lunch, capturing the dragon, sword duels, recovering the royal jewels from the sandbox, perfect cupcakes, a simple but nifty craft, and a transformation of the community's "common house". It was a very relaxed vibe and I was surrounded by friends. 
sorry you're not feeling well...pamper yourself tonight.