I don't think I am acting that way. When I am around her, I am friendly, ask about her day or if she had a good time or whatever. I try to avoid her bitchy moods, which are often. In the past, I would let her upset me, piss me off, feel depressed, etc. I let it all roll off of me now. She wants to separate bad but won't leave, she expects me to. I have let her know that it is she who wants out, I will not leave the kids or my home.
I understand what you are asking and I admit to having trouble striking a balance between avoiding and trying to "make" her see the changes within me. I take care of our kids, I take care of the house when she doesn't have time. She is not receptive, right now, of any feelings of friendship or any relationship of any kind. She wants out. Period. If you have any suggestions on how else to act around her, I am all ears!
Sounds like you are doing fine with your behavior around her.
I find it tricky sometimes, as I catch myself being aloof or unengaged around my W. Then I think later if she was a random stranger she might have viewed me as being unfriendly.
It can be tough, since treating her like someone you are thrilled to be around almost seems like condoning her behavior, but I can't think like that. Her behavior is what it is. I still have to be someone that women (including her) would be attracted to.
WAW Using God Me-43 W-40 M-14 S-11 S-9 D-7 EABomb 5/09 Separated 12/09
