I confronted her to not suggest that I was doing something bad to my son. She said, "get out of my sight." I told her I would not leave until I said what I had to. She said that I better find a place to stay soon.
Be calm. Focus on your goal - to give your M a fighting chance. I'm saying this knowing that I'm not doing so hot, either, but it is the right thing to do.
If she's going to leave a continuing/ended/ending affair (physical or not), she needs to be looking at a good future with you. Be that good future.
Even if you D, you will always know as will your S that you tried. A future W would also see you as a catch...so you win either way. But if the M is what you want, then aim only in that direction.
