Not sure which way to go anymore

[Abbey]

Interesting... actually quite interesting. Your H isn't having an easy time letting go of you. Keep doing what you're doing... work on you... give him a sunny window to be drawn to. Keep it pleasant and if you get what I'm saying... luke warm... stand your ground when he goes off track and reward "good behavior".

Again, don't get too drawn into the whole baby thing. Same thing with the tramp's kiddlette. Not the kiddlette's fault's that his life is a whirlwind.

Your DS is picking up on stuff,... both yours and your H's. Keep the messages to him as simple... Your Dad has things he needs to deal with/work out etc.

Now... patience, patience and more patience. You are working harder than you should have to, you're pulling the load and doing the work that HE should be doing... but just remember...
Sometimes ya have to choose: You can be "right" or you can be happy. Sometimes you can't quite have both. I made the choice to try to be proactive about getting my H back home. Yeah, I could have stood my ground and been right... but it wouldn't have kept the door opened to him.

You too... you're doing what you need to, to keep this working... easy does it,... steady and inch by inch. And yes, he'll slip and slide etc for a while yet. He's still screwed up in the head and scared.

He'll drop crumbs like he did at the game. (I do call that a crumb)... so it's working what you're doing. He'll drop the right sized crumb when he feels less afraid of your total rejection. Be ready to know what to do, keep your head above water. I know it's hard, I know it feels like you're swimming against the tide... but he WILL be back. Tramps' days are numbered.

*hugs*
Abbey