"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
Sounds like you went inot the day with the right idea and it has jogged along quite nicely.
I hope you fix something lovely for your tea
lalxx
Choose Life Me: 45 Him: 44 S:11 D:8 Met in 1992 Married in 1995 Bomb drop September 30th 2009 Divorce final April 16th 2011 exH Marries OW June 17th 2011
Hopefully you got a little "horizontal refreshment". Happy Anniversary. FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Hopefully you got a little "horizontal refreshment". Happy Anniversary. FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
thanks everyone! it was a huge shocker and ppl who are close to the sitch are so confused including IC. there was some "friendly" behavior too (to FIB...i wish! lol ). i'm not really thinking of it and just accepting it as it is.
going out of town this weekend to visit some family so looking forward to that.
doing SO much better emotionally this last week. i felt like i was doing the physical things but now the emotional piece is setting in. i think the detachment stuff is making sense now. i can be nice to H and just be me without feeling anxious about our sitch or freaking out that we are getting a D. it's kind of freeing.
You're right, detaching is a freeing feeling. It's a state of mind that is your choice. That's the good thing about it. If it starts to fade or lessen you can bring it back. Your choice!