H started the whole separation of finances thing… he was thinking that he could get his own bank account, have his direct deposit go directly into there, and hide how much money he has. He then would pay his bills and take the rest of the money and party with it… or spend it as he sees fit. I know that sounds dangerously like mind reading, but I do know my H that well.
Basically, one thing he said is that I control everything, and he wanted to control his own finances.
This is how he does that: -I go online and check the bills twice a month. -I ask him and the kids if anything is coming up we’ll need money for -I put together a spreadsheet of everything we owe -We meet, I go over the spreadsheet and tell him what I need to pay -He transfers the money to our joint account -I write checks, put them in envelopes, address them, put on stamps, mail them -He blames me for our financial situation since I do the budget.
Voila, he’s “in control” of his life… silly, isn’t it? Am I the only one that sees this? LOL.
