Confused and looking for advice

[hockeymom12]

While my marriage is 100% over and there is nothing I can do about it. He informed me this weekend that our marriage was horrible and he can not believe I did not know this. I really didn't, I mean I knew that I got angry and stuff and showed it but I loved him so much and really thought we would always be together. He informed me that he has not loved me for a long time and now that he is gone it is easier to stay away instead of working on it. Last week he agreed to read divorce busters and I asked him why he agreed to this if he was so set on never working this out and he said that he just wants to keep an open mind on things but that he will never come back. So needless to say today is not a good day.

Gr8, did I nag him? I would honestly say no, I did not have to nag him for any reason, he was always helpful around the house, with the kids and so on, we were true partners, yes there were things about him that would irritate me as there always is but I never nagged him about them, maybe it would have been better if I had.

I do not know how I can work on this when we are not speaking at all and he refuses to go to counselling.