Need some help with moving forward.

[michaelCM]

Hi everyone,
Here I am, a few months later. I finally got the nerve to talk to OMW, and now I am not sure that was such a good idea.
I have been suspicious of contact between W and OM for a while now, and I found some evidence of it. thought that maybe contacting OMW would help me nip it in the bud. It may have backfired a bit.
OMW never had any proof, only a lot of suspicions. OM kept telling her they were just friends, etc. I provided her some proof. She is divorcing him now.
The problem is that this may cause my W more grief than I had intended. Because OM has always been part of her circle of coworkers/friends, and no one had known about the A, the fact that she will now blame my W publicly for their D will cause her great humiliation, and, as my W said to me, may force her to quit her job, which she loves. This is definitely not what I wanted. I am trying to contact OMW again to see if it's not to late to have her remain silent about exactly who her H had an affair with. It's probably too late.
All I want to do is save my marriage and my emotional and physical health. I really don't want my W to suffer any more for her past.
Anyway. that's it for now.
Rethinking everything...