Gotta start somewhere...

[NNP1965]

you are right our M has been very dysfunctional and as much as I would like things to change overnight, I know that is not possible. I have been patient (although not as patient as you my friend lol ).

H does not feel he needs to make any changes at all. He thinks "we just need to have some fun together" and that I need to get over my anger and forget about things that have happened in the past.

I feel we need to deal with the things that have happened so they do not happen again.

It may seem selfish of me, but I need him to want to re-earn my trust. I want that passionate marriage based on respect, trust, and honesty that oldtimer mentioned so long ago in my sitch.

I am willing to do the work to get it, but I can not do it alone.