CW I think your judgment on how to help/address the kids is amazing! Seriously- you explained your H in a way that made sense to them and caused them to recognize his selfishness doesn't reflect anything they did to make him not want to be with them. And yes, I also think that sometimes ICs can make things worse...and you have counseling in place for the kdis that seem to need it!

Well done- excellent mothering CW!

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004