What does this mean?- the WH's regrets?

[newmama]

The baby’s arrival is only 4 weeks away or so. I wanted to talk a bit about your role at this time. It’s okay with me if you’re at the hospital but as you know, I don’t want you in the birthing room. I'll leave it up to you to decide if you want to visit her in the hospital.

How often would you like to see our daughter? The baby needs to be with me every two hours, but I will probably leave the apartment when/if you come over. Let's figure out the visiting arrangement before she is born.

Last, (and here's a paragraph about her name where I tell him she'll have my maiden last name. She and I, I said, will share a last name no matter who I'm married to.)

I am always available by email for any questions you may have.

OK so I totally put words in your mouth but just to give you an idea, some wording like what I suggested could come across as seeking his input and showing your boundaries at the same time!