It really is confusing. I feel like maybe she is also saying that she is desirable by other men and if what I say is true I need to show it in my actions. Otherwise there are other options.
I don't know, I woke up with her really early this morning (she works super early Saturday) I waited until she was about to leave and told her that I hoped she had a good day...etc and gave her a short but gentle hug.
I will be at work for about 10 more hours, then I'm working a shift for someone tomorrow and then she is back to work Monday so we will see each other very little for the next few days. I guess that's good so we can both think about our sitch. I will plan on continuing to do my 180s and be a better guy to be around .
Well, W had a few drinks last night and I came home and she was listening to all these sad songs. One of them came on and she said "this song is too personal for you to hear" I listened and it was all about how a woman loved her husband and even though she was in pain, she couldn't let go f him and thier love for each other. It was a really heart renching song and I felt horrible because I know it was about her life.
Do I dare assume that I can take anything she says while drinking to heart? If so she is maybe talking about how confused she is abut our sitch.
Headed home from work now and I don't think I will mention it and just keep up my work around the house and my new, better attitude.
Maybe some of what I'm changing is making her notice?
W asked me to take the reigns with the D filing etc. She said it is too much. I politely said that she wants a D not me, I am not standing in her way b/c I know I did alt to drive her to this but I don't want a D so I'm not doing the work. She was upset and said I did this and if I would have changed 2 years ago that would be different. I apologized for not being aware of my faults before but said "today I am focused on being a better man and husband, I choose to not give up, your choice is yours."
W came to bed late last night and tried to approach me sexually, I don't know if she was drunk or just trying to test ke but either way it wasn't the way I wNt to return to intimacy with her so I just kind of acted like I was still asleep. She huffed and puffed andthen went straight to sleep (I'm leaning towards drunk in retrospect).
Normally she works and I am off today but she said she is taking the day off because she has been "soo tired lately", I am interested to see how our interaction is around the house.
Do the vets think I am handling these confusing situations ok? What should I do?
Good job on not caving on taking over the filing on D.
I would suggest that you stop with the apology, however, b/c you have already done that, right? It is not good to keep on apologizing for the same thing over & over. You apologize, and then it is her decision to forgive or not. 'nuff said.
Also a good job about not caving to her sexual moves on ya. Next time you may not be able to pretend you are asleep....but that's a good start!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Now W wants to go to the movies tonight, then says "you don't have to go to the same showing..." then wants a date, then doesn't. Back and forth back and forth. It seems like she is really confused.
Now W wants to go to the movies tonight, then says "you don't have to go to the same showing..." then wants a date, then doesn't. Back and forth back and forth. It seems like she is really confused.
She wants you to lead.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
w says "if you are changing and becoming a better man, than why don't you give me the divorce? You hurt me for so long in our M and now you are still hurting me because you won't help file."
why won't she see that if I am becoming a better man, then she wouldn't have to live the life she hated before I changed?
What do I do now? She thanked me for working more around the house and some other things but that doesn't erase the last few years of our marriage.
How do I proceed? I'd this where things get worse before they get better (maybe)? I guess just stick to the plan and show her I am not waivering in my personal changes?
