Good to see things are progressing (even if slowly). Things are almost moving in that direction for me.
Good luck to you. I keep getting 2 steps forward 1 or 2 back. VERY frustrating.
Originally Posted By: Tattoo_you
I have recently discovered that I was soo backwards on the idea of love languages with W and that if I had read it years earlier it would have been so helpful.
What did you read? I have read 6 books since she left and each one has given me more tools and better understanding.
Originally Posted By: Tattoo_you
My sitch is similar and we still live in the same house. I've been trying to approach her like with the message sitch. How did you do it without seeming too persuing?
Learning patience. Still not great at it. I am such a typical guy, I wanted things fixed yesterday. The thing that really tweeks me is that if she actually told me what was wrong over the years we would not be in the situation. She is a typical female that thinks the guy should just know what was wrong. If I did then there would not be any problems. I am not great with the not pursuing, it seems tougher for us that still live with them not to pursue I think, maybe not. You always have to think, is what I am about to do going to help or hurt. I know the need to have your W back! But if you do just remember she needs space and time. That is mostly how I do it. I have been FURIOUS with her several times over the last few weeks. Blood boiling pissed, but I did not let her know. Left the house or ussually she was not home and phoned a friend to calm myself down before she got home. I have noticed that she does stuff on purpose to try and test me. I will just answer if I need to and leave teh room. All kinds of things help me.
