yes, I think it's a sign of another corner turned when one begins to realize that we don't necessarily miss the person, we miss the activity or the feelings or the role or the interaction.
Yeah, I diddn't think of it as a corner turned or a milestone or anything. I just felt it. A whole different feeling.
Originally Posted By: hoosiermama
gotta love a woman drummer!
That's what i thought! And a Blues drummer, to boot!
I think it is a sort of milestone--a sort of new level of healing when you realize that, when you can separate the person from the rest of it. detachment, differentiation, whatever you'd like to term it--and at a level that allows you to perhaps see yourself loving again, enjoying life again, being part of a couple again, in a way that allows you bring along what you've learned to make it a deeper, richer experience (as opposed to being angry, bitter, and desperate for the rest of one's life!) I'm glad you "felt" it--far more important than "thinking" it!
excellent that you continue to step outside your "comfort zone." it's part of developing a new identity, one that's fully you where you are now with all the wisdom and growth that involves.
I'm sure that inner "little gardener guy" is impressed as h*ll with how well you're taking care of him!!--and bringing him out to play, too! how cool is that?!
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
