I think the fact she has taken your wedding pics off the wall etc shows she hasnt moved on either.
Or that she just doesn't use facebook or is embarrassed to admit to all and sundry on there that her marriage failed. I'm absolutely sure she won't be telling anyone that she walked away from it because she was in love with my colleague. She hasn't even told her own family that. I don't really have any way of publishing her nasty behaviour to her work colleagues or friends to exert any pressure, beyond hacking her FB page and posting on there. Those that do know are her immediate family, her close circle who are all adulterers themselves, and my work colleagues and friends.
Originally Posted By: JacT
I believe she is going through a crisis and she needs time to sort herself out.You dont want her to come back too soon and then leave again?
Absolutely right. The more I think about stuff the more I think she may be in MLC. All the stuff she said about "I've finally found myself" and "It's funny you don't really know who you are till you reach your 30s." I beg to differ. She's just pretending to be something new, with new life goals, new aspirations, new job, new views on family, new friends, and new lover. She was even dressed the same way as the OW dresses that day she came round to my house. She looked ridiculous.
Originally Posted By: JacT
I think you are still standing for your M at the moment but that may change. Your image of her is one of perfection.
Absolutely not. I gave up protecting her a long time ago for what she's done. She is an alien. She is not currently attractive at all. Just a shell of the good, loving, moral woman she once was. The OW is a manipulative cow, but WAW chose to take her clothes off. WAW has never been perfection in any of the time we've known each other, and I've never held her to be so. I'd say my feelings about her are far more disgust, pity and hatred. I am still standing for the vows that I made, for the memories that I have of our times together which were good. For the principle of lifelong commitment. I don't think it's really been about HER for a good few weeks.
Originally Posted By: JacT
Allen is right it will all fall apart cos thats what happens to most of these relationships.
I wish it would hurry up. I'm impatient in nature.
((((saffie))))
Do hope you're feeling much better soon. Was it the horseriding?
Reality is that which, if you don't believe in it, doesn't go away.