still separated, headed for D?

[gatsby11]

"He said "I will text you to let you know when I land." ???? I said nothing.

Then he said "I might also text to check on S...just because..."
I didn't say anything.

He said he will come here straight from the airport on Thurs night to pick up S."

I don't know if that quote looks the way it's supposed to look!

Anyway, I thought that this whole thing was good. Even though he's 'crossing a boundary,' isn't that ultimately what you want? I guess I interpreted his input-- texting you about himself, texting again 'just because' and then going to the house right after landing-- as him getting warmer to you. That your distance was pulling him in.

Of course, I can see it the other way, too, that he's being selfish and crossing your boundaries.

That's always the line, and that's why this DB thing is really hard. Without R talks, there's no real way to know motivation! And even if their motivation is not pure to begin with, it could become that way.