So sorry you are going thru this too! This is not easy and sometimes I wonder what I did so wrong to 'deserve' this in my life. It must be a lesson i'm suppose to learn or something. I understand about the kids being upset.
Mine are beside themselves, gotta get them into IC Monday morning ASAP per my atty and my own personal intuitions! Even though H and I aren't D'd until July 20th, 2010, he has made it quite clear that he is getting engaged and has even gone as far as to expose our kids to the OW for the last month then tells me its' none of my concern when it does concern our kids, the kids are fine(S15 is failing classes, normally a A-B student&S11 is acting out in school,very teary-eyed) and don't need counseling! They say they don't want to go to his house, they want to stay w/me. They want to talk to someone about what goes on between them and OW but frankly, I can't anymore,,its' tearing me apart!!
The 15yro holds everything inside til it blows up and starts disrespecting me while the 11yro cries and needs lots of holding and encouragement.
Don't know if your daughter is like my 15yro son but I do know that when they get to a certain age all of a sudden they have blossomed and turn into these compassionate human beings, like my 23 & 22yrolds. H blew it with the older 2 boys, they hate him now. The 23yro just graduated from CSU on Sat.,,H didn't even want to come see him. Meanwhile, the 22yro just got M'd last yr and made us grandparents, a 2yro boy from a previous R for her and a new granddaughter born in March,,he doesn't even recognize that hes' a grandpa!
Wondering if you live in Colorado like me? Keep your chin up!
M44H44 M18 T22 Sep7yrs-3/10 S23,22,15,11 10/07I file 2/08D postponed by H 2/09D on 3/09H moves in 8/09I kick H out 9/09H-PA 10/09-2/10mediate 3/10OW discoved 5/10H&OW engaged 7/10DDay w/atty
