Your wife could be doing a computer search to help her friend. So far, OM is not trying to steal your wife. On the other hand, he doesn't mind the attention she gives him. But that is not the same as proposing to her and running off with her. So relax. Let the chips fall where they may. Eventually, OM is going to have to let her know he is not looking for a new wife. I assume that she doesn't show this whiny, sick, miserable side to him. She must save that for you.
