Her mood is driving her right now OIN... You have to pocket that crap and keep pushing.
I realize it's devastating... we all feel like some alien mothership has taken the brains of our spouse and replaced them with some sinister program to drive us all into a mad house...
You have to trust your ten years together and that it has some pull for you. You have to trust that there is a bond there that she's HIDING from you and right now would never admit to.
You have to trust that she's staying there with you right now because she wants to.
And I firmly believe that if she DID want out of there she would be out.
I honeslty think she's partly testing your resolve.. there's a lot of hurt there so you are gonna get a lot of hoops tossed at you... You need to hit every one on the mark.
If she wanted to cut things off OIN she woudln't be talking to you, she wouldn't be allowing you to keep her company to visit her FGF or any of this... there is an attachment there that she doens't even understand.
You need to trust that she will come back sometime... it may take many months yet.. But I honestly think she's giving you a chance here... I don't know if even SHE realizes it, but her actions are giving you chances every time she talks to you or allows you to come along with her... She's giving you hoops every day.. just keep hitting them and hang in there man.