Puppy is right on again Ken. I really don't like this.
This is not what we were suggesting. It is your marriage though.
But keeping her prisoner for three months just gives those two three months to plan ahead and get an apartment together.
You just reduced their stress level by giving them time.
Now she has another three months to look for a place, and she suckered you into agreeing to a divorce.
She played you. She is already lying Ken.
It's your marriage, but I would just pack her bags and send her out NOW.
Talk to a lawyer and restrict her as much as you can until she ends her affair. She's NOT playing fair, SHE is controlling this whole thing. Every time she throws you a rope Ken you dive for it like a child for a cookie.
I KNOW how hard this is Ken. I have been there. I had to out my wife too... and I had to follow through and mean it, NO COMPROMISE... two weeks after she knew I meant it she backed down... I say you push her out the door and she will come back Ken.. you just have to trust that.
It WILL make YOUR home more stable once she's gone, and your kids won't have to feel that tension anymore. Your wife is an addict and you need to get her out of your home where she has to fend for herself and she isn't using you anymore.
She will come back, I am quite confident of that... But this deal you have is just giving her three more months to plan... thats three months of stress she avoids. That three months OUT of the home would wake her up a LOT MORE than three months IN the home LYING to you.
Good Luck Ken, but I bet my retirement fund she's already started to plan with OM. Now they just bought three months of time to do it right without any pressure from you anymore. Talk to a lawyer Ken, because you need to be prepared to throw her out when you catch her contacting him. You will catch her.
I just don't how on earth you are going to handle it when you do...
