I need to clarify an example: if H says "I'm going to go to my coworkers house tonight to watch a game", and I know or am 99% sure this is a lie, that he's going to do something he's hiding, I'm to smile and say "have a great time"? No confrontation or questions?
This is hard. I've been able to do it but have depression/resentment after.
M--14 years T--20 years, HS sweethearts dday #1--2002 EA dday #2--2005 bar sl*t dday #3/4--Feb 2010 texting/cell/physical/who knows what Shortly after found out he had been injecting steroids for 2 years