Vets, could use some input please! Seeing light?

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First off, Thank you to everyone who truly helped me to understand so much several months ago! by commenting and directing me to the archieves, I was able to go out and GAL, take care of myself and children...and enjoy it! All the while keeping my h at a distance, yet close. Inviting him but never expecting anything from him. Really giving him the time and space he asked for...only asking a question when warranted and truthfully trying to let go of my anger and resentment of him for even leaving 9 months ago!

ok...so I have made WONDERFUL changes for MYSELF that I take so much pride in, words cant express it!

here are some things on H...

his testosterone counts have come up and DR was able tp finally prescribe an A/D...it has only been 1 month and i see changes. H went for his check up and the dosage was increased. waiting to see if there is more improvement...

from xmas( when I was in shambles), til now...I can truly see that he has calmed down quite a bit. things have been smoother all the way around...I believe mostly because of my acceptance that he isnt living at home...but at his parents.

h coaches softball with our children...he WANTS me to be a part of it...so I am FOR THEM

he still supports us, in fact bought a new home that we are getting ready to move into...without him...( yes, I am legally protected on the house)hoping that eventually he will

something else...because it is fresh in my mind...at xmas...I was given a few sets of kitchen towels and potholders...for Mother's Day...I was given a beautiful rosebush and several other perrenials to plant at our new home, I am a flower person...

yesterday he stopped at a yardsale...picks me up a BUNCH of grapevine items...HUGE wreaths that "HE" can put lights on at Xmas time...a set of 3 counrty hearts and 4 or 5 planters...also for my summer flowers...his comment was " I know, you are wondering why one minute im an #SS$ole, and the next giving you something I know you'll love" ?????

things like this have been happening frequently, and ALL along the words we and us have seemed to stay in place

FF to tonight...during dinner he starts...absolutely no idea why

he isnt moving with us
he has so many responsibilities...let him handle it
WHY do I put a time limit on EVERYTHING??? ( I hadnt said jack about anything)
he is NEVER coming back
I will NEVER change

could someone please help me out here? Im not saying things have been perfect...by no means but MUCH better!

what in the world could have triggered this or is it just him ranting?

Is he mad because my changes are showing to be permanent?

I am at a total loss here! He has lost a GOOD job, now feverishly looking for another one. Spent over $1000 dollars this winter to obtain his Captains license...now hes not sure if he is even gonna Charter due to $ issues, had a vehicle repossesed only to buy a piece of crap that has problems...

I could go on but those are the biggies! All I am guilty of with any of it, is standing by, being supportive and listening...being patient and not giving opinions...

again, someone please help and give me some insight!

I have been doing so well...i DO NOT want to spiral down!

thanks!!