My Wife And Her Emotional Affair

[ken5140]

Thanks Allen and WhatNow for those thoughts. Very profound.

I agree. I also think that we are in keeping with the Bible quote here. I am not really putting away my wife. I would be willing to welcome her back as soon as she breaks off the affair.

She did go to talk to the OM today by cell phone to tell him all about the three month plan.

Here is the letter I am sending to the OM (mostly taken from Penny Tuppy's from letter):

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OM,
The time has come to permanently end the relationship between you and me. In many ways this relationship was thoughtless and cruel.

In betraying my marital vows I was untrue to myself, my values, and my spouse. It is also unfair and unkind to you to create a relationship built on causing harm to others.

I have recommitted to my marriage and am determined to make amends for the hurt I've caused and to be the partner my husband deserves.

I am terribly sorry for all the pain I've caused, including to you and those around you. As I said, I was thoughtless and cruel. I hope that you will find healing and peace.

Because of the terrible offense to my spouse and the damage I have done to our marriage I am permanently ending all contact with you. Please don't contact me after the three months that I spoke about either. I need to be able to decide for myself whether or not I feel that I want to stop making an effort in my marriage at that time. I would ask that you respect my wish to regain my ethics and integrity and to heal my family. Please do not attempt to contact me in any way at any time.

My spouse has been told of the details of our relationship and he will also be told of any attempts at contact.

Once again, I am sorry for the pain I've caused to my spouse, my family, and to everyone else who has been affected by our actions.

Sincerely
W
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