Does this friend know there is another man involved? All those quotes go out the window in cases of adultery.
The reason your W cannot be specific about you, is because she is making it up!
All WS's invent problems, create issues, blow things out of proportion, to justify what they are doing and to relieve their guilt. Tell your friend, that she must give up the other man before any therapist worth their salt will work on marriage issues with you.
Does he expect you to continue to live with her and OM? She will continue to find "reasons" to rationalize her behavior. You will build up so much resentment that your feelings of love and desire to save your marriage will wane.
She is deeply entrenched in wayward fog and talk will not get through to her. Only actions. She probably thinks you will slink off into night and she can replace you with OM. (They all do.) She has already told you she thinks the kids will be fine. (They all do.) She is living in a fantasy, and I believe the only way to get her to recommit to you, your family, and your marriage, is for her to LIVE her fantasy for real, not just what her foggy imagination says it will be like! Most A's do not survive reality.
Remember, it is not you, or anything you might have said or done!! Yes, you probably have not been the perfect spouse, but come on!!
"If you strike me down, I will become more powerful than you can possibly imagine!" 1st thread
