[quote]i think you already know that i've said before. unexpressed conditions? not my problem. i don't mind read. that's childish. if they're punishing me for something THEY didn't tell me, i can't be sympathetic./quote]
OK, I understand what you are saying but do you want to be right or married? You knew it was wrong yet didn't do anything productive to solve the problem. Why? You didn't have the tools and weren't aware of how it appeared in your relationship with your H and his family. I am trying to help you become aware of the unhealthy dialouge and how to remedy it. You need to learn the tools of healthy dialouge.
The first step in reconciling is losing all the negative feelings. The only one you can change is yourself, Forrest is fond of pointing out that we can only address you in our dialouges so the advise is geared to you and hence all the work. So are you ready to do the work?
Hope you had a great weekend squash girl. You will cherish your time here later I promise.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
