The Court of King Caractacus

[JacT]

Lees this is all normal..the questions I promise we all ask them.The process of healing is a long one especially when it involves getting over betrayal.You are early on your journey but my sis(who went through this also) said the one thing I can promise, the pain will go and you stop obsessing about both your spouse and the evil OP.
I am getting to the point where I know the pain is there but I am learning to live with it.
The process of detachment is challenging and doesnt happen overnight neither does dropping the rope.

Your W will be thinking of you..true/real love doesnt disappear overnight but it will be masked by all these brain chemicals playing havoc.Her guilt will be playing a part in the constant avoidance.You will know about papers shortly..when/if they land on the doormat.Forget about it until they do.

I think the fact she has taken your wedding pics off the wall etc shows she hasnt moved on either.

I believe she is going through a crisis and she needs time to sort herself out.You dont want her to come back too soon and then leave again?
She wont have pics up, if she still has wedding pics on Fb or whatever..she hasnt moved on.

In terms of waiting you are the only person who knows that..its down to personal choice and you will know what to do when the times right.I think you are still standing for your M at the moment but that may change.

Your image of her is one of perfection..shes not cos she hurt you and you didnt deserve it..dont be so quick to pick out your own failings over hers..she cheated.
I think the counselling is a great idea.
Allen is right it will all fall apart cos thats what happens to most of these relationships.
The ow is not attractive ugly on the inside ugly on the outside..my H ow has the face like a baboons a***.They are vile and this is the issue I find most difficult wondering what they do together..its very hard not too.

Eventually though they show their true selves and your W will se her for what she is..patience is key and looking after yourself.If/When she comes back she will be very broken..trust me so you need to be strong to support her if thats what you decide.
You have the added advantage that she was very maternal so her biological clock may push things on.

The most important thing is you..do things for YOU.If your destiny is to be together, the good man upstairs will give you a Pathway that unites you..kepp you chin up.

(((hugs)))