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I need some help from veteran db'ers on this.

I told you all in earlier posts that H has been emailing and calling on a daily basis as of late. Well today, I got an email from him asking why I never call or email him. That he has been the one to initiate contact with me for the last month or two (he isn't thinking - it has been alot longer than that). It wasn't a joke, he was serious and wants to know why I am not emailing or calling him. I just didn't know what to reply - and I needed to reply as he asked me some other questions regarding kids that needed answering. so...I said "Perhaps I am just gun-shy regarding the emails and calls. I was under the impression that if you didn't want to live with me, that you didn't want me to call and email either." Probably not the best DB answer, but the truth in a way. Couldn't really say that DB 101 says not to initiate contact with the WAS.

Any thoughts on this, my fellow DB'ers/

Also, H has evidently declined my invite to go out to eat on TG with me and kids. He says he can't leave his 80 year old parents alone on that day. I said they were welcome to come too, he said, you know them, they won't go out on TG!
so then he says, MIL asked him to bring the turkey - WTF???? What a fiasco. He asked where whould one get one (a fully cooked one). I gave him some ideas. He acted so unsure of what to do about the turkey and then asked if I would handle it for him. I said "sure". So guys, I have ordered a turkey for my H to take to my in-laws house for TG of which I haven't been invited. H made some comment about it today about mine and kids plans and made mention that "nobody ever said you weren't invited". I WAS NOT EVER INVITED, AND HE KNOWS THIS. I told him so. I will not change my plans. I want him to go to his folks house, with just the 3 of them, and feel what it will be like for future holidays without his W and kids there.

To be honest, really looking forward to going out on TG with my kids. I have booked reservations to a fancy hotel buffet and can't wait...yummy - no cooking, and no clean up and no leftovers to deal with!