I took kids to school this am. So did not see H this morning. (he usually takes them even on nights that I have them and I see him when he comes inside to round them up). I am going to continue to do this for a while to see if he starts to "miss me" more. I typically don't see him in evening either, as he drops kids off at respective activities and I pick them up if it is "my night". so I will do this and see if any changes.
H did email me early this morning. I finally decided to touch on the subject of Turkey Day with him. so in my email back, I just said "I am going to make reservations for Tgiving as I do not wish to cook this year, nor do I wish to drive to my parents. I do think the kids deserve some sort of Turkey Day celebration, so I was thinking of taking them out to dinner and maybe to a movie after the football game." He replied he had not thought about it (I am sure he is avoiding the subject in his mind because he will have to think about the fact that we are S and therefore everyone will be thrown off kilter this year). He said he will let me know. I wrote back at end of next email that I would make a reservation for him to go with us, but I would be just fine if he decided not to go. Tried for no pressure, but come on, it is the holidays and I need to know something! In a way, I hope he doesn't go and ends up over at his parents place with just him and his folks. He is an only child and they have no other family in town. Maybe this will be another "light bulb" moment for him - how life will be if we do not reconcile.
How are the rest of you handling the holidays?
And why do I not care if he goes with me and kids or not????
