he is too damn prideful and stubborn and selfish to make it happen.
This is not a 2x4 but if you do want to get further along, this is the line of thinking that you need to concetrate on changing.
You are not divorced because of his pride sis. Or because he is stubborn. It is not that simple. It is much worse than that. You are waaaay too easy on him.
Crying is like a valve, helps let some pressure out. Hugs K