My Wife And Her Emotional Affair

[ken5140]

UPDATE: This morning, I handed my wife some paperwork for a temporary separation order. She responded by saying, "You can't kick me out." I said, "With a temporary separation order, one of us has to leave. Since you are the one having an affair, it will be you."

She took the papers and hid them. I said, "Don't worry about those papers. I'm going to do divorce papers instead. I'll have them ready for you when you get back from shopping." (I was thinking of backing down later and saying that I have to do it on a weekday with my lawyer.)

She didn't say anything. A little while later, I said, "There is one way we could work this out peacefully. You could stop talking to the OM for 3 months (she wouldn't agree to 6 months) and then if it doesn't work out, we can have a peaceful divorce like you want." (As if that exists.)

She agreed! She's willing to sit down with me and send him a letter of NC. I told her, "If you break that agreement, the deal's off. There will be a big ugly divorce and I will fight for the kids." (I don't think I will really do that, but it gave me leverage. Me fighting for the custody of the kids is the one thing she is most afraid of.

I know this is not ideal, but I think I need to take what I can get. I know that three months for me cannot compare to 10 months of a relationship with the OM, but I'm at my wits end. She won't leave, and this is the closest we can come to reconciliation.