He views me as selfish bc he thinks I did not support his cattle endeavors enough until it was 'too little, too late' for him. And in the beginning I admit I treated it like a hobby that was draining our finances instead of as a business venture. I know that people who own their own businesses LOSE money in the beginning, 99% of the time.
However I also saw him refusing to set a budget with me to work on our money as a team. He spent on what he wanted, when he wanted, and was not showing himself dedicated to saving money to put toward his cattle dream. How much of that stripper money and ow money spent on dinners drinks and hotels could have been bolstering his cattle fund??
I questioned his financial decisions and asked him to communicate with me more in terms of "What are your plans for the business? Where is that money going to come from? What are you willing to cut back on to make it happen?"
And THAT is when he turned away from me permanently. I didn't just blindly support him so he decided that I had betrayed him horribly, he couldn't trust me, I was selfish, bc after all he was doing all this hard work to make money for ME to stay at home with the kids. SO I got MY dream and I didn't let him get his....that's his story and he's sticking to it.
