You are seriously right on track, Gatsby- you haven't had to put up with your H going back and forth, stringing you along, pulling you into his drama...you have been separate from his nonsense and just focusing on yourself and the baby (and offering input to us here on DB! Thanks!).

At some point, it probably will be a good idea to spend time with your H (like after the baby is born) to allow for some reattaching to take place. Hopefully this will take place because he wants to see your D! I keep reading that NC+separation usually leads to divorce.

If you aren't afraid of divorce then I guess that part doesn't matter. Where did you get your chutzpah?

About dreams- yeah last night I had one where I went to WH's apartment with S. He told me the paperwork for the D was in the cabinet and told me to look at them and sign them while he took S somewhere. He left with S, I opened the cabinet and the papers were just in a messy pile all over the place. I realized that he didn't want to be there when I signed them and he didn't want to face his decision. Then I woke up! ???Does that sound like an ending to the stories you correct from your middle school students?lol!


me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004